Nothing strikes me as more ridiculous is wedding planning than women growing their hair out, complaining about it, then getting it done all fancy for their weddings, then chopping it off. But I also don't generally understand how anyone can stand to have long hair. Do you actually enjoy showering, blow-drying, straightening, and producting your hair? I was sitting in class the other day and a girl who is getting married the same day we are was complaining about how long her hair is and how it's driving her crazy and she can't cut it until the wedding. Being miserable and hating your hair for an entire year? My friends, that is not living.
I'm coming up on my one-year-shortaversary (or as Vidal Sassoon would say, my liberation) and I am going back to the chin length bob - mostly because I've had the same haircut for a year and I got bored. Oh right, and short hair is expensive. What's interesting is that the #1 comment I have gotten about my short hair over the last year is "I don't normally like short hair on girls but it looks really good on you." I think it's because I wore my hair pulled back 90% of the time before, and so it actually looks more feminine now that it is short and not scraped back into a tight ponytail. A lot of these same people though, have an expectation that I will grow my hair out for the wedding. The pressure can get pretty intense, not to mention the peer pressure of all my friends who are growing their hair out.
The thing is though, I've been through this rigamarole before. I have bobbed and regrown my hair at least five times in the last ten years, mostly because I would start to feel like I should have long hair. I tried to grow my hair out for my sister's wedding, and the hairstylist was only able to pull it back into an incredibly pathetic ponytail/curly mess. I hate how it looks in most of the pictures (not that it matters, because it's not my wedding and my sister looks gorgeous). I would have been much happier if I had just sat down in her chair and said "screw it, give me a chin length bob with bangs." So when I cut my hair the last time, I decided that I wasn't going back below shoulder length ever again. For me, it simply isn't worth it. Even for great wedding pictures (and why would I want pictures that don't look like me?) It would be nice to have those gorgeous long flowing curls that some girls have. It would be nice to have a fantastic updo like I had when I went to prom. But all the other days in between - all the work of long hair. All the expectations about how it should look. Not being able to get out of the shower and brush it and let it air dry and look okay. It clogging the shower drain. So not worth it. I'm not a long hair person, when it really comes down to it. If the wedding is truly about us being who we are, at the end of the day, I am a girl with short hair and Mark is a guy that loves me for it.