I've had a few conversations with people recently about "overly engineered" weddings. The best way to sum these up are weddings where somebody "thought of everything". Where their logo is on everything from the matchbooks to the napkins. Where every single item is finely tuned to the color palette. Where it is clear that the couple did nothing for the past 12 months but plan their wedding. (I swear, I have hobbies, although that might not be obvious.)
I talked earlier about going overboard with our tree theme. But what about just going overboard with the DIY crafty-goodness?
Yes, I love craft projects. Yes, as I talked about before, I am shameless in my desire to impress people with my mad skills. But I don't want people to look at our wedding and think, "jeez, Ellie is pathetic. How desperate was she to get married that she needed to craft the wedding within an inch of her life?"
So I think it's time to take a step back. To ease up on the BIC kool-aid. To never go near the Martha Stewart website. To sit back down with my list of DIY projects and consider what is achievable and what is simply a ridiculous undertaking for us. (My wedding is not your wedding. Do whatever makes you happy.)
- semi-DIY invites (meaning buying these pocketfolds and getting 5x7 invites printed and then putting them in the pocketfolds.)
- programs/place cards/menus (if we think menus are necessary)
- veil & hair accessories
- awesome wooden signs
- Thank You notes
- Table runners
- OOT bags/boxes
- Handmade favors.
- Escort cards made of individually cut leaves that will be tied to a tree branch that match the programs and the menus
- Handmade napkins.
- Fully handmade invitations (or custom handmade pocketfolds)
- Handmade dress
- Envelope liners (these got bumped to the "hell no" list when I attempted them for christmas cards and gave up after about 5 seconds).
- A candy buffet (yes, this is acheivable for some people, but the amount of effort it would take to set-up and take down would simply be enormous.)
- Potted plant favors (from personal experience, these appear to be more trouble than they are worth.)
- Making our own overlays.
- Monogrammed matchbooks. There are 3 smokers coming to our wedding. And they own their own lighters.
How much DIY are you doing and how much "screw that" are you doing? Did you also make a To DIY list?