My mom's dress was the first wedding dress I tried on. Ever, and also after we got engaged.
I'm not gonna lie to you guys. It wasn't pretty.
Lets start with some simple numbers. My mom was a size 3 in 1975 when she got married. I was a size 8 in 2010 sizes.
If it was just an issue of sizing, it probably could be dealt with. However, it was also an issue of...well, everything. The long sleeves, where the waistline fell, how even though the waist was at the natural waist, the lace overlay on the bodice came to my hips. I love the idea of wearing the same dress that my mother and my grandmother wore. But I hated the idea of feeling fat and dumpy in my wedding dress. It's a beautiful dress, and my mother looked stunning, and someday I might post pictures of my parents' wedding. Today, sadly for you, is not that day.
But I saw this post on Eco Chic Weddings and it talked about picking classic styling so that somebody else can wear your dress.
(Lets pretend for a second that this short dress fit me and looked good. Do I think for a second that my daughter would want to wear it in 30 years? No.)
The thing is though, there is simply no guarantee that my daughters will want to wear my dress. Or that I will have girls at all. (There is even less guarantee I will have a cross-dressing son.) Or that my girls will have weddings. Or that we won't get divorced and my kids won't think my wedding dress has bad karma. Also, my dress doesn't have classic styling. So realistically, keeping the dress would be entirely sentimental. And man, that's a lot of closet space to devote to sentiment.
The answer, for me, on all fronts, seems to me to be the simplest: sell the dress after the wedding. Sell it to somebody else who wants the trendy styling now. Don't bank on your kids wanting to wear it. It's much greener to sell or donate your dress than to let it sit in your closet for your imaginary child to never wear. In my case, I doubt I would be able to get back more than half of what I paid for my dress if I sell it, but I get the added benefit of helping another girl get a really nice dress for a low price.
I'm curious to know though - what are other people's feelings about this? Why are you or aren't you keeping your dress?