It was actually more awkward to be asked about religion than pretty much anything else. We don't talk about it a lot, because I feel that it is personal. There is actually almost nothing I am more uncomfortable talking about. So being asked about it at lunch at a table full of well-meaning but varied-opinion family members was, well, disarming. The problem was also I think that some people realized it was making me uncomfortable and so they tried to change the subject and it just got even more awkward.
My uncle tried to bail me out by telling me that I didn't need religion if it made me uncomfortable - that we should just invite a judge out to perform the ceremony, like he did. And that's when I started to feel like there is no "right" answer to the ceremony question - that no matter what we decide that we want, there will always be somebody else who thinks that their way is better.
I think that the answers in the future will be one of two options - the first being, decide everything wedding related now, which isn't really an option; and the second being, lie. Simply say, like parents-to-be, "yes, we have a baby name, but we're not telling anyone until after the birth." Just say, "we have somebody in mind, but since it's our decision and it's not up for discussion, we'd rather not say who it is." Then do the same with every other decision that might illicit advice or input. "Yes, we've picked a menu but we want it to be a surprise."
How do you respond to the inquiries of the people you love dearly?