Long story short, during a test run, I stabbed myself with floral wire and turned to Mark and said, "I do not want to feel this way on my wedding day."
Oh, wait, you don't come to the blog for the short story. You come here for the long story in all it's anguishy goodness.
Over the summer, we booked Irvine and cut our flower budget to $500. I know how much flowers cost, so I knew this meant DIYing flowers. However, I also thought about it and decided a bouquet was totally unnecessary, because I wouldn't really be holding it except in a few pictures.
Then I started to have second thoughts about my dress. One of my big issues with my dress is its basque waist. I'm just not wild about it. Then I was looking at a friend's pictures, and realized her dress had a basque waist, but in the pictures, she's holding her bouquet at waist level. Problem. Solved.
Once I decided that my bouquet would be in photographs, I realized I didn't want it to look....like a craft project. Which is how my fabric flowers are coming out. (I will finish them to use as a tosser, don't worry.) I was also having second thoughts about the fabric flowers because I wasn't happy with the way they were coming out and they weren't really jibing with the vision that I had.
I realize they look okay, but they aren't really what I had in mind.So then, I went to Cross Street and picked up some Asters, some roses, and some hypericum. And a gerbera daisy. Cuz I love gerberas. Well, it looked terrible. It took forever to strip all the leaves off, even with florists scissors, I couldn't get the length of the stems right, etc.
Finally I attempted to just use the asters and the hypericum, which looked pretty good, especially if I had bought two colors of asters. But what I was realizing was that I don't really want to do the work. Especially not on our wedding weekend, in which I would like for the priority for where we spend our time to be with our guests and not with my floral sheers.
My best attempt. Probably okay for a bridesmaids bouquet, I wanted more fullness and wished I had just bought a second thing of asters instead of roses.
Then I attempted to make a boutonniere, stabbed myself in the finger, and began to bleed. Then I began researching florists. I also put up an ad on Bride$hare to see if there was anybody who would like to trade days with me, and emailed a couple of friends getting married. One florist got back to me to let me know that she doesn't do Sunday weddings. The other set up with a meeting for this afternoon.
This, my friends, is what we in the Sane Wedding Biz call, "throwing money at the problem." Sure, you could call it hypocrisy, but I just call it what it is. We're all guilty of it, and this is why Mark and I left a lot of room in our budget for unexpected hiccups and give-ups and hypocrisy. We're lucky that we are able to do this, and I don't think I would have a problem DIYing bouquets other than my decision to emphasize mine in the photographs. I felt guilty as I paged through the weddingbee gallery, finding great DIY bouquets and thinking "why would I spend money on this when other brides make it look so cheap and easy?" But I just have to remind myself that it is not worth it to me to stress over this.
What problems are you throwing money at?