So, the evolution of the tux-purchasing decision was this:
1) We got engaged.
2) I decided the guys should wear suits because I think rental tuxes are a scratchy polyester racket.
3) I bought a ridiculous dress and realized Mark's good suit I got him for his birthday two years ago wouldn't really look right, so he would have to buy a new suit. He has a black suit, but I wanted him to have a really nice suit. (I like fabric.)
4) Mark got asked to be a groomsman in 2 other weddings. I pointed out he might have to wear a tux for those two other weddings, and therefore might be better off buying one.
5) We discussed wedding plans with Mark's parents. Mark's dad voted that Mark wears a tux. This being absolutely the only thing at all that Mark's dad has expressed any kind of opinion on the wedding (to me) about, I gave it a lot of thought.
6) Mark discussed with the other grooms in his life their tux plans. They were planning to rent or buy tuxes, so purchasing made sense, especially with the Men's Warehouse buy-one-suit-get-one-for-$100.
7) Mark and his friends made plans to go tux shopping. Then Mark kept getting sent away for work, so we had one free weekend to go shopping before his friend's wedding in mid-May that he will be in.
8) We hit Syms, on Rockville Pike* and were encountered by a grumpy salesman who seemed annoyed that Mark is such a common size they were out of tuxes that fit him, and seemed determined to keep us from appraising the tuxes. He would literally put Mark in a jacket, then have him take it off. Mark wasn't able to check it out in the mirror, and I couldn't see it either.
9) We had lunch at Urban Barbecue, which while good, is no Slow's BBQ.**
10) We hit Men's Warehouse. We realize we were fools to come tux shopping on a weekend during Prom and Wedding Season. Finally, somebody helps us find the tuxes, where they are cleverly disguised amongst the regular suit section.
11) The wonderful man helping us measures Mark, then finds him a really nice tux. Sadly, it's a Regular and he needs a Long. Also, the material is so nice I'm afraid it's the $700 tux I saw online.
12) Salesman leads us to the rack of 41Long tuxes and hands Mark a few options. I ask about the one we saw in the Regular section and the salesman doesn't see it.
13) Mark tries on a Calvin Klein tux that is $499. I shrug and say my dress was $500, and he will get more use out of this. It's pretty good, but pretty good for a lot of money.
14) Mark hunts through the racks again while the salesman helps somebody check in their rental tux. He finds the original tux, with it's soft luxurious fabric and satiny lapels.
15) He tries it on and choirs of angels start singing. The hunt is over, victory is ours for only $225, and I am extremely sad when he has to take it off.
We have not actually purchased said tuxedo yet, because we are waiting for his best man to hightail it over to MW to try on tuxes and get one as part of the BOGO sale they have going on. MW is being great about letting us hold the tux for a week, and overall I was thrilled with the level of service we got there. They were helpful but not pushy, and very very good about asking Mark if he liked the suit, not asking me if I liked it.
The only problem is now I will be on the hunt for black-tie occasions for Mark to wear his super-handsome tuxedo to.
*to which I drove his stick shift car from Bethesda all the way up the Pike and only stalled once.
**Heather, sometimes I hate you for taking me there because nowhere else is remotely as good!!!!