Before all the hoopla, A Los Angeles Love wrote an incredibly smart post about why this article, which spurred this article at Jezebel and ensuing controversy, was a terrible article to begin with. Specifically, the post focused on why the article was sexist and focused on attacking specifically the brides about the cost of their $2000 dress.
Becca is right. There is always something that somebody could spend money on that doesn't accumulate more money and costs you in the long run (specifically cars, but also TVs, playstations, computers). What bothers me about this controversy is that although I think Becca's (A Los Angeles Love) focus on the comments is genuinely valid, we're not really focusing that what is wrong with the fact that Jezebel didn't pick up on the initial sexism in the article - that there are lots of ways to save money, but the guy focuses on a wedding in particular and not buying a $5 sandwich for lunch every day.
What bothered me the most, I think, about the original article, is the advice that the biggest cost saver is to invite fewer people. Because even though we should remember, "Every dollar you save will be make you richer by $5, $10 or even more down the road", happiness comes from experience and relationships, not how much money you have. And if not inviting somebody to my wedding makes me $500 richer in 40 years, but means I have fewer valuable people in my life, I don't really see that being worth it. But this analysis is missing.
It also bothered me that nobody here is trashing the honeymoon, or other expensive trips which don't "net" you any gain. Every $100 less you spend on your honeymoon could also make you richer by another $500 or $1000 down the road, but that advice isn't even suggested. In fact, I haven't seen that suggestion anywhere among the supposed "budget" suggestions that are put forth in these articles. But people tend to spend a LOT of money on their honeymoons, money they would never spend on their normal trips, on the excuse that it's their honeymoon, and it has to be special. Yet nobody mocks dropping a lot of money on the honeymoon (or I have yet to seen it), possibly because the honeymoon is not viewed as a "chick thing" the way weddings are.
How do you feel about the idea of "every dollar saved gets you more over a lifetime?" Do you also think it's bupkus? And if you wrote the blog post I'm thinking of, please let me know!