I've written about the name change before. The original solution was to drop my dad's last name from my hyphenated last name and be Ellie Momslast. My dad was okay with this, my mom and my sister were not. And well, it turns out, neither am I.
The right time to make the change was last winter, so that my name change would have gone through before I had to apply for the bar. But um, I couldn't do it. I just...couldn't be half of who I am anymore. It sounds silly, but it was simply too much to give up. The thought of doing it just breaks my heart.
So for now, here I am. Someday practicing law under my full name, but using only one name with clients and people I call on the phone. Co-clinic mates assumed I'm already married, or already divorced, based on my name. I can only assume that others will make these same mistakes, and I'm in for a lifetime of correcting and explaining. The simplest solution would be to somehow create a legal alias, but if there is a way to do that, the state of Maryland sure doesn't want you to know. The only possible solution I've come up with is making my Dad's name my second middle name - being Eleanor Middle Dadslast Momslast instead of Eleanor Middle Momslast-Dadslast. The only problem with this is it sounds SO WEIRD. But, advantage - a lot of lawyers have two middle initials, so I would look super-cool.
Any body have any other ideas? I know we have hyphenated readers - what are you doing?