Here's the most important rule of wedding planning. It's what you should always come back to as you are overwhelmed by inspiration, by creative, fun DIY projects.
My TTD dress came in the mail last week, and I love it. I love it for somebody who isn't me. I love it for playing dress up for a TTD shoot. I love it because I can pair it with a birdcage veil and red lipstick and rock out as somebody I'm not. It reassured me of something though. My dress is the right choice for me. A slinky alterna-bride dress would not have suited me. It would have made people say "is that Ellie?" instead of making them say, "awww!"
I have had fleeting moments of wedding insanity. I thought about making napkin rings. My sister laughed in my face when I floated the idea. Because I'm not the kind of person that cares about napkin rings. I'm a little surprised that we're having cloth napkins, instead of my usual standby of putting a roll of paper towels on the table. Or wiping my hands on my jeans.
I think the thing that gets frustrating with planning, particularly planning in Blogland, is that we forget who we are because we envy other people. I envy other people for being cool enough to pull off birdcage veils and beautiful, simple, lace dresses. I envy the women who wear hot pink high heels, and I forget for a moment that I hate hot pink and I hate high heels. Other people make the simple, long, flowy hairstyles look so cool that I fantasize about having long wavy hair that looks natural. I envy people who have small families and can have intimate weddings. I envy people who are satisfied with simple weddings. But then I remember who I am. A nerdy, complicated girl with a large, loving, and slightly insane family, with problem feet and very large thighs.
If I was really staying true to myself, I would probably have bought the soft pink dress that I tried on that I really loved, but didn't "go" with the fall wedding. Oh, and I hate pink. But I looked so cute and I wasn't wild about the whole "white dress" thing. Regardless, it didn't give me the soft "oh" feeling in my stomach that my dress gave me, so I'm happy with my choice.
I think that the most important part of knowing myself has been knowing how I act around parties. I know that I stress. I know I get snappy and irritable. I know I get impatient and frustrate easily. Knowing these things about myself makes me feel more comfortable about buying into the WIC and it's "you must have a florist" "you must have a DJ" "you must have a caterer". Many people have expressed their desire to DIY projects because "they can". Well, I know myself, and I know where my limits are. So in the interest of having a wedding that stays true to who I am, I am a person who throws money at problems and doesn't care that much about napkin rings.
What has wedding planning taught or reminded you about yourself?