Yesterday, we undertook our 3rd move together as a couple. (Plus Mark and I each moved at least 3 times since we've been together.) This time, we accomplished the move with minimal fighting, which is impressive. I had to take a full length practice bar exam over the weekend, so I was very little help. Mark managed the movers and directed everything. In retrospect, I think this was a good thing, because he could do all of his organized moving things that he likes to do (like decide exactly where furniture goes before it goes in a room, and color code the boxes) and I wasn't there to be impatient and angry. (In retrospect, it is possible that the complicated parts of moving are all related to me, because I get really cranky when I'm hot and hungry. I also throw things in boxes and then am confounded as to why it takes 3 months to find soap.)
But this post isn't actually about moving. It's about telling people that you've moved. With weddings, it is especially important that people have your current address. (If you get a gift, and it gets sent back to the shipper, and the shipper was the store, and you don't send a thank-you note for said gift, I imagine it is terrible.)
After Mark had set up my bar review corner in my new dressing room, (Yes, both he and the new apartment rock.) I settled in and sent an email to pretty much all of our friends and family, alerting them to our new address. However, I think we will still copy an idea from an acquaintance who got married. They put an "at home" announcement in the back of their program.
According to The Knot, the at-home "card" is a good way to "clarify how the bride and groom will be addressed". They then follow this with a number of examples of what you do when you are a lady doctor and you get married and you keep or hyphenate your last name. So score one for the knot.
Ours will probably be just a note on the bottom of the last page of the program, to save paper and expense, but I'm not sure how to word it. According to Mrs. Tulip, much of the wording is antiquated. A note that says, "After our honeymoon, we can be found at home at:" would be my instinct, but that doesn't clarify any name-changes we make. Or a superhero motif that says, "our new married identities are:" and "find us at our lair" but I'm not sure we'll be goofy enough for that in the program.
I think maybe just:
After the wedding/honeymoon:
can be found/reached/annoyed at home
Our new address
Baltimore, MD 212XX
If you are going to just show up, please bring a casserole or some beer.
Okay, maybe minus the casserole, but I think it works. Even though the address isn't new, it will be new enough to plenty of people. Should we specify the date we will be back from the honeymoon?
Is anybody else doing an at-home announcement? Can we start a revolution here?