Wednesday, June 16, 2010

"we"

I'm impressed as hell by couples who train for marathons together.  I feel like everywhere, there are descriptions of couples who run together.  I know some couples who run together.  I know some guys who would never dream of leaving their girlfriend or wife behind while they run.

And then, well, there's us.  And we don't run together.  It's a disaster.  There are just some things that some people can't do together, and run with Mr. Super-Speedy-No-Endurance is one thing that little Ms. Slowpoke just can't handle.

Runs have ended in fights, tears, getting lost, and a series of other disasters.  So we stopped trying, because we didn't want to make it work.  Making it work would have meant I learned to run faster; and it would have meant that he would have to retrain his muscles to run slower; neither being a viable option.

Yet I still get jealous when I see other couples talking about training for, or running a marathon together.  How nice it must be to have that kind of together time! To undertake an adventure of that difficulty and magnitude, and know that your partner is by your side.  To have their support and understanding when you lower yourself into an ice-water bath post run.  But then I remind myself that having a training partner means fighting over the tub, instead of asking him to scrub and fill it for you, and I feel better.

11 comments:

  1. I totally hear you! Me and my dude have completely different styles when it comes to sports. We tried mountain biking together and same thing, it often ended in fights and tears.

    And its taken me a while to get over not being able to do some things together. Some we have worked out but some are definitely not worth the trouble to try and make it work.

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  2. I agree! I'm like man I wanna run together like them, ha! But just doesn't work.. So time to find a girlfriend to do it with, ha!

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  3. As you know, my fiance and I are doing C25K together. We've run three times so far, and it's going well but already we're at different paces. I don't want to hold him back because he's faster so I bet as we progress, we'll just go outside to the park together, start off running together and meet after. Even now, he jogs faster than me but he's still visible up ahead, haha.

    This is the first time we've done something like this together and it's helping me stay motivated. We're not even training for anything, just trying to stay in shape :o)

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  4. While I'm at a wimpy 11:30 min/mile pace, Karl runs at about 7:15 min/mile. We run together ALL the time. He runs my pace. Sure, he holds himself back for me.

    Funnily enough, he got a lot faster since he started running with me! We're training for a marathon together, and he has promised to run with me the whole way, even though that will mean he will likely be running well over an hour more than if he was doing on his own, but he knows it makes a difference for me to have him there.

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  5. "Runs have ended in fights, tears, getting lost, and a series of other disasters. So we stopped trying, because we didn't want to make it work. Making it work would have meant I learned to run faster; and it would have meant that he would have to retrain his muscles to run slower; neither being a viable option."

    This IS my life!! We have decided that long walks are much more productive "us" time. For working out he runs & i go to the gym.

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  6. Haha... yea, I'd imagine that's much nicer.

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  7. You could try back-packing together. The weight you're both carrying will force you both to slow down ;) My husband has much more endurance/stamina than I and whenever we go on bike rides together, he ends up "dropping me off" at home so that he can go on a longer, faster ride himself, which is where I totally feel your pain. But when we started hiking and backpacking together, I found that the terrain and the extra weight we're carrying brought us much closer in stamina and much closer in general =) It also provides for quality alone time 'cause it's just the two of you in the wilderness (unless it's a busy park) and you appreciate the simple things in life so much more with no distractions, like cooking dinner together.

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  8. Why does it have to be running? part of we is finding things that do work MOB and I love diving together , animal watching and have written a number of excellent academic articles joining out fields

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  9. @Ling - backpacking is a big huge no. The two times we went, Mark planned extremely strenuous trips and I got blisters so badly on my feet after the first mile that the remaining 17 miles were awful.
    @FOB - this post was specifically about running together. Obviously Mark and I have other things we like to do together, like diving and traveling and cooking. But I see couples say "we're training for a marathon" and I go "man, it sucks that we can't do that."
    Kind of like how you feel when you see couples holding hands and strolling together.

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  10. Ryan and I rarely run together, we would so kill each other. But we do run together occasionally (huge emphasis on the occasion bit), and not just because we live 2 hours away from each other. He's fast, I'm not, I hate running 5 steps behind him, and him running at my pace doesn't give him much of a workout at all. It's ok, don't stress about it! Maybe run together 2xmonth or something?

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  11. @Ellie: well that's your problem: you're letting him plan 17+ mile long trips! I'm talking about a 5 mile hike in, 5 mile hike out type trip. And maybe look into different shoes? I feel like blistering after a mile is an issue of the shoe and not a problem of not being able to keep up with Mark =p

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