Friday, July 23, 2010

Lessons Learned

Things I did not know you could have/do at weddings before this summer but that totally work and are awesome:

  • Walk down the aisle together
  • A venue that does escort cards FOR you.  (Yeah. So they weren't shaped like seashells or whatever - I bet they saved the bride a load of stress!)
  • A church wedding that isn't long or preach-y. (I went to a lovely church wedding last summer that may not have been long, but man was it hot.)
  • Open seating (and before you say  it, there were many divorced families there and muchos drama and it still worked out)
  • Paper tablecloths
  • Picnic tables
  • Plastic cups/glasses (went to two weddings with this)
  • An outdoor wedding in southern Maryland in June that wasn't disgustingly hot or horribly buggy
  • Too much food
  • Ice cream cannolis (also an ice cream buffet.  I knew you could have one, but I didn't know how it worked.)
  • Stationed hors d'oeuvres only, no passed
  • Cut the cake before everybody eats dinner
I'm going to try to get the people I know who did these cool things to write a guest post or let me share pictures, but if you have your own experiences (or similar experiences) do tell!  


  1. Yeah, our wedding was awesome, there is no question.

  2. Awesome ideas. Kudos for thinking outside the box. We went with open seating and plastic cutlery/cups/paper plates and it worked out great for us. I'd heard a thousand and one times not to do open seating, but I ignored it and I'm glad I did. We saved ourselves the trouble of seating charts and escort cards and people felt free to move around and hang out with people at other tables, which is exactly what we wanted. If we'd been able to, I definitely would have gone with picnic tables. I loooove that idea.

  3. we did four of those (walked down the aisle together, plastic cups/plates, open seating, and we had too much food!).

    I loved, really loved, walking down the aisle hand-in-hand with my guy. If my father were still alive, I might've gone that route, but as it was, this was perfect for us.

    SO many people are against open seating, but I think it worked out just fine. Everyone found a place to sit for dinner, but people didn't feel like they were tied to that spot. (and we had 110 guests)

    The plastic cups and plates were super easy, sturdy, cheap (.25 cents per plate/cup at walmart) and dishwasher safe, so we donated them to goodwill afterward. AND we didn't have to worry about finding a commercial composting facility, which had been our other option.

  4. Add another: we're having two aisles (one is handicapped accessible, one is not). We're walking with both sets of parents to honor our families, but I really want to walk the last bit together. I wish we could walk the whole thing together.

    Of your list, we're doing: plastic, religious wedding that won't be long or preachy, too much food, nontraditional desserts (churro balls!) and homemade cakes, and stationed hors d'oeuvres (by which I mean cheese, crackers, and fruit.) It's all good. And thanks for re-pointing it out.

  5. - we did open seating and out guests LOVED it. and it was one (or a few) huge headache(s) less that i had to have! i'm glad i ditched it, even though i had the cutest ideas for planned seating.

  6. When we went to order our escort cards the printer told us that some places do it for you - unfortunately ours doesn't. Booo.

  7. Oh oh! I want to hear more about paper table cloths and picnic tables!!!

  8. First - Good luck on the bar exam. I am sure you will be over that hump (and have passed with flying colors) by the time you read this, but yeah. From one current wife/future JD candidate to a future wife/current JD-holder and fellow Baltimorean :)

    Second, yes. to all of the above. We had open seating. There was some divorcee-drama at the ceremony (i.e. my mother maliciously not allowing my dad to sit in the front row, much to my and hubby's chagrin), but at the reception? None. And we were in a TINY little restaurant and have some serious family/friend/divorsee drama that often occurs. So we therefore had no escort cards. We walked doent the aisle together (and would not have had it any other way... LOVE LOVE LOVED that, as did hubby, who started out VERY against the idea). We had stationed hors d'oeuvres only. We had a croquembouche and no real "wedding cake." We had WAY too much food, and insisted that everyone take home leftovers (our venue is preety "green" and insists that they make too much food just because, but that all guests get leftovers and that any remaining food is consumed by waitstaff or goes to a shelter down the street). We had NO tablecloths (collective gasp).
    And the worst, most egregious offense? We did a cocktail hour before the ceremony (I wanted everyone to have a good time for the whole wedding, not just the reception ;), and me and hubby were there, me being in THE dress. This was a last minute decision, but we were like, you know what, let's not sit around here (ceremony site being across the street from reception site). Let's go have a drink, have some fun, hang out with the people we love. And I am so glad we did. It was awesome.
    So anyways, the point of that novel (sorry for that, btw. I am delurking b/c I love this post so much, and well, have a lot to say on the non-trad way of doing things ;) is that we switched stuff up, a lot. And our wedding was classy, and fun, and looked good in pictures. And no one, not even our stodgy, older, wealthier, "classier" relatives, said a negative word about anything. And multiple people told us it was the best whatever (food, ceremony, etc.) wedding they'd been to. So I am all about going a different way. And nothing is set in stone. Seriously. There are no unbreakable rules or absolute must-dos. Just go with what feels right and have good time!
    p.s. love the blog :)

  9. Best of luck with the bar exam!!

    I went to a wedding 2 summers ago in Charleston. It was August. It was hot. And humid. And buggy. And we LOVED it. It was beautiful and fun and so totally fit the couple, it didn't even matter that I had soaked through my dress within 10 minutes of dancing.

    They did open seating, and very few actual "tables" - mostly it was hightop tables that you could stand around and set your drink on when you were out boogying on the dance floor. Again, it was great - I think it forced people to mingle. I met so many fun people that night that I probably would not have met had I been stationed at one table all night.

    They also did stationed heavy hors d'oevres instead of a sit-down meal. The stations were all over the place, from right ouside the tent to inside the old plantation house that was on the site. It gave everyone the opportunity to look around and really enjoy the gorgeous scenery. Plus, since it was a Southern wedding, it was all Southern goodness - crab cakes, she-crab soup, fried green tomatoes. Seriously, my mouth waters just thinking about it.

    It was one of the most fun weddings I've ever been to.