However, I don't really like having a registry. I am a person who enjoys gift surprises - I don't peek at Christmas gifts and I don't give or request hints. Registries are bad for people who like surprises. For example, myregistry.com, our alternative registry, e-mailed me last week to tell me that a gift was purchased off our our registry. That's not fun! I mean, unless the food processor is included in the e-mail, don't tell me what we got before we actually receive the gift. I have since turned this feature off.
I know, you are probably thinking, "But you registered! You know what all of these gifts are! There are no surprises!" It's true, but we registered for more gifts than guests - not because we are greedy, but because we wanted people to have choices. We registered for things we need and things that are just fun. We registered at a wide variety of price points and at several separate stores. This results in a lot of possible items that people could purchase for us. But I don't want to know what they are! I love opening the boxes and seeing what it is and guessing based on the size.
I also find myself reducing the items from our registry - mostly because I now feel like we have asked for too much. It makes me feel guilty. These are all feelings I did not expect to have, but I have nonetheless. Also, I was totally unprepared for what off-registry gift showed up last week:
I refused to put a KitchenAid on our registry because I think that a lot of people register for them because they "want to learn to cook" or because they look good. It is a consumerist culture that bothers me. But think of all the meringues I can make at Christmas! Also, I actually cook - so I don't need to feel guilty about keeping it, right?