Friday, November 5, 2010

Lessons: Things you should do RIGHT NOW

Okay, here is the list of things you should be doing RIGHT NOW.  If you are in a wedding lull period, if you are a procrastinating, if you are agonizing over bridesmaids dresses or wedding hairstyles, you need to be doing these things now.  These are things I wished, as we got closer to the wedding, I had just done when I was thinking about it, or things that I was really glad we had taken care of and I didn't have to think about.
1.) Write your program text.  Even if you don't format it, write the text, so it's ready to go when you do pick a fancy design or when you call it a day and print everything on a folded sheet of paper.
2.) Write up a weekend timeline.  Even if it's just a draft - now is not the time to worry about being fancy, just get things on paper.  I highly recommend making it a Google Doc so you can just share it with you FI and your bridal party.
3.) Make your shot list. At the very least, a list of the people in your family you want pictures of for formal portraits. I wound up making a relatively controlling one at the end of the day, saying, "please make sure to try to get this type of picture", which made me feel awful but also relieved.
4.) Pick and/or download fonts to use.  Something readable but still fancy, whatever.  They don't all have to be the same, you can just pick stuff you like.  We used the same script for the escort cards, signs, and program cover but some people find that nauseating.  Regardless, you should have these at your fingertips for when you realize something needs to be drafted or designed.  Don't waste time later trying to find the perfect font.
5.) Make signs for things you might want to have around the reception area - sign for guestbook, sign for reserved seating, signs for favors, whatever.  Just do them, or at least the text.  Then use your downloaded fonts.  Save the file - you don't have to print them just yet, the point is to take care of it.
6.) Pick readings or readers.  We didn't do this early enough and wound up feeling like it was too late to ask anybody but the wedding party (who, at the rehearsal, we told, "hey, you're doing a reading." We kind of suck.)

Any other "do it, do it now" advice I missed?  I'm serious here - if you don't do these things now, you'll be even more stressed right before the wedding because you didn't take care of it six months ago.  We wrote our weekend timeline back in May and when October rolled around, it was a relief to just make a few edits and have it be good to go.


  1. Thank you for this list! I am absolutely in a wedding lull, and when I get back from my trip this weekend I'll be turning to these tasks.

  2. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I totally needed this! When I read the first line of this post, I was thinking, HELLO! This is you! I've wasted so much time doing the silly stuff... I totally need to buckle down on these types of tasks :) You rock!

  3. Ooops if only I'd seen this sooner, I wasted a good week obsessively trawling for fonts and have ended up using gill sans!!

  4. Oh thank you thank you thank you. I think this is what I needed to hear. We're moving out of our lull and into Go Go Go mode, but since Feb-March are basically all work, all the time, this is the stuff we need to be doing now.

  5. OMG, if i wrote this list i would probably put the EXACT SAME THINGS on them. except i would also add "print the damn signs out" and put them in a folder! our printer started acting up at the last minute (which is when i made our signs) and i nearly had a heart attack.

    i'm also gonna add, if your mp3 player is your dj, ACTUALLY PUT YOUR PLAYLISTS TOGETHER instead of scrambling at the last minute. we kept putting it off because it was a fun task and so we felt like we had to do the un-fun stuff first. and then at the last minute it wasn't done and the poor job we did REALLY bums me out. we like music a lot, and it should've gotten more attention!

  6. task master!

    love your new header!

  7. Oh, so helpful. Thanks Ellie. You are always so wise.

  8. I would add, proofread your program (as in, consider sending it to all parents - to make sure you didn't spell anyone's name wrong or leave out an important relative in your thank yous or in memoriam section, if you have them - and anyone you know who is a good copy-editor - for regular typos and that-doesn't-make-sense checks). Doing it ahead of time means you might catch more stuff later when you're looking with fresh eyes before you print. Consider sending it to your officiant too.

    Pick a spot and container (box or bag) for wedding stuff, so you can throw stuff into it as you're going along in the next months. Similarly, make a list of things you want to bring with you for the wedding (or weekend, if you'll be away from home for it). Better to start it and add over time than try to think of everything at the last minute.

  9. I get lost in fonts, they are all so neat. Although I think I should have been a graphic design artist because what i really want to do is design my own.

  10. Thanks for this list! Will definitely refer back to it in the next few months!