So yeah, the rehearsal was terrible. Except for two things: I realized that our two best wedding choices were our minister, who took charge and calmed everybody down, and our musicians.
Way back in January, I sat down to decide my walking-down-the-aisle song. This was the only song I cared about. I wanted to use my favorite song of all time, which is "Ghost" by the Indigo Girls. My best friend from high school told me that I was insane, and I could not use a melancholy song about breaking up that got me over my high school boyfriend as my walking down the aisle song. I protested that I wouldn't use the lyrics, and he still said, "hell no." Which is how I wound up walking down the aisle to Great Big Sea's "Sea of No Cares", but the "living room version" that they play at their concerts (or at least the four I've been to), played on guitar by my two best guy friends from college. Mark picked "Streets of London" as the song for the rest of the processional, and we picked Old 97's "Question" as our recessional. The guys agreed to learn all three (and I think I gave them about 3 weeks notice for the other two songs) and were awesome.
It was amazing to walk down the aisle to that, but the best part was at the rehearsal, when Tom (one of the guys works on Saturday) started playing and I nearly cried. I stopped thinking about all of the stress and horrible things going on and how Mark wasn't even rehearsing with us, he was telling the caterers where to put the tables, and I just relaxed and felt like finally my life had the soundtrack I always wanted it to.
(photo by Prema Photographic)
In addition to helping me relax during the rehearsal, it helped keep me grounded on the wedding day - I knew, that no matter what else happened, when I heard those chords strike up, I would just chill out and think, "this is my life and I am so freaking lucky to have these people in it."
(picture by a friend)I didn't really think that I cared about the music - originally I thought we'd just walk down to some classic instrumental piece that Mark picked, but I'm so glad I put more thought into it and that I asked people who were really important to us to help us out. These guys are not only two of the kindest people I've had the pleasure of knowing, they have been incredibly supportive of Mark and I since before we started dating, and have been nothing but happy for us over the past seven years. So if you have the chance to include people you really love in your wedding like this, take it. For me, at least, this felt a lot more meaningful and personal than if we had asked them to do a reading, and it made a huge difference in the feel of our ceremony.