Recently, as you may know, I got married. In conjunction with getting married, I gained weight. I wasn't really expecting this because:
1.) I wasn't dieting before the wedding (yes, I lost the 5lbs I gained in bar review, but that just put me back at my "normal" weight)
2.) We already live together (most women gain weight when they move in with their boyfriends/husbands)
I was somewhat prepared because my friends had been open with me about gaining weight on their honeymoons/post-wedding and how hard it was to lose it, but I thought since I was prepared, I could avoid it. I was wrong. So when I came back from the wedding and the campaign and began my new and exciting life of job hunting, the scale stopped budging. And it didn't go down. Then my jeans began to rebel against me. Suddenly, the weight gain was less about my ego and more about finances - if my clothes stopped fitting, it would be an expensive situation.*
I've checked in with a few other women in my life, and they too have gained the newlywed ten. (Or more, in some cases.) I see it reflected in blogs all over the place, and I suspect that a lot of other people are feeling like I do. A feeling of, "what did I do so differently before?" A feeling of, "well, it will come off as I get back to normal." A sense of, "well, I wanted to use all my fun new cooking toys and see what they do and then I ate a lot of it."
Look, I firmly believe that nobody should be totally hung up on their weight. I am against losing tons of weight for your wedding and not doing it in a sustainable way, or fad diets or yo-yo diets or unhealthy habits. But the truth is, I also believe in weight loss. I believe that there is nothing quite so unhealthy as hating yourself, and if you can do something to change that, you should, whether it's losing weight or finding a really good therapist. Or both. I don't think everyone should lose weight, and I don't think being overweight is necessarily unhealthy. But I recognize that the world is full of people like me - people who are happy with themselves at a certain weight, or when they are below a certain weight. For people like me, gaining weight, particularly a large amount over a short period of time, is a bit traumatic. So I wanted to address it.
I'm not going to give you a bunch of hokey weight loss tips. But what I will say is this: weight gain happens, but it can probably be avoided. Weight is much tougher to lose than to not gain. For me, the problem was that my circumstances changed right around the time of the wedding - I went from working, and walking daily, and generally moving around more, to not working, and adopting a mainly sedentary lifestyle. The temperatures dropped and I spent less time outside.
So in conclusion, be aware of all the things that are going on in your life, and how they will affect you, during the wedding-planning and beyond. Also, remember, crash dieting is a terrible idea. That is the only hard and fast rule I can give you about weight loss. Some things work for some people, but crash dieting works for no-one.