Marriage is like flower pictures. Safe and (sometimes) easy and really nice. Mark took this. I was impressed.
I will speak to this: the biggest advantage of a late-fall wedding is that life quiets down afterwards. Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas weekends were a little busy, but mostly, things were quiet. We are quiet. Our weekends are spent doing yoga, chores, hockey, rock climbing, chores, and errands. If we're together, we're watching TV (we watched all of BSG and just started netflixing the Wire), or cleaning, or fighting about cleaning. We see friends and family, but there is a distinct lack of a goal or a deadline, which we've always had in some way or another. Oh, and I don't have homework anymore. That totally rocks.
I now understand why so many people get married and then get a dog. It's like, "the wedding is done. We have TIME!!!" We have a no-pets apartment, and dogs are expensive (I did almost steal a beagle that I saw wandering the street yesterday with his leash dragging behind him, but his owner was just a few steps away).
This little guy was in his backyard, but was really excited to see me.
I also understand why people get married and buy a house. We're not buying a house for awhile (read next week's Marriage Matters for more!), so we need something else. We can't run together, so we're not going to be training for a marathon together. We both like having our own separate things that we do, since we value having space, so we're not really looking to crowd each other's separate activities. We can't take time off work to do a cross-country bike ride, I hate backpacking, and most of the other stuff that we could get into together is expensive. (See the part where I finally started working again after five months of unemployment.)
Now that spring is here, we've planned a camping trip and signed up for Warrior Dash. My hope is that since it is more like the scavenger hunt we did last year than a race, we'll be able to stay together. We've also booked tickets to England for the summer and are planning a possible cycle or hiking trip while we are there. The big dry-erase map is up on the wall and we keep circling places we might like to go. It gives the whole thing a feeling of Adventure. But for now, it's a matter of trying to put everyday adventure back into our lives to keep things from feeling slow. We need to actively make weekend plans without making so many plans that we feel overwhelmed.
Over the weekend, I think we accomplished this pretty well. On Saturday, we rode our bikes up the Jones Falls Trail to Hampden, which was only a 8ish mile trek, but it was still something new and different. On Sunday, since we had nothing else to do, we went for a mile-and-a-half walk while I took pictures for a photography project I've been working on. It's springtime and it no longer makes me cranky to be outside, so hopefully we can embrace the change of the seasons to put a little adventure back in our lives.
The view from the Hill where we got engaged.
Does anyone have any suggestions for adventures to work towards? Anyone else experience the same sense of ennui? What is your next big adventure?