It seems to me that recently everybody's weddings have been falling apart a bit on them, from people not showing up to items being lost or destroyed for the wedding. I read their posts and tweets and think, "but it will be okay. It was okay for us, and we had our fair share of problems."
Then I rethink that statement. Because you know what? At the end of the day, we didn't have our fair share of problems. We had something like three guests back out at the last minute, one because she had massive health problems and one because of childcare issues. My grandmother couldn't make it, but when she moved to Colorado, I knew she wasn't coming to the wedding. I lost my makeup three weeks before the wedding, but fortunately, I had been keeping my expensive "wedding makeup" separate and supplemented the rest with Target makeup. (Sure, I had a total nervous breakdown at Target trying to figure out what kind of blush to buy, but that's neither here nor there.)
Sure, I spent three weeks before the wedding up to my elbows in crafts, wondering how it would get done. But I'm lucky - firstly, I wasn't working at all, secondly, I'm crafty, and thirdly, I used to throw events for work. So I knew what had to get done, how to prioritize, how to make sure it all happened, how to wrangle people, what to give up. Sure, our printer Refused To Work several times right before the wedding, and that was a problem. But if we hadn't had programs, it wouldn't have been the end of the world. They were wrong anyway. And it wasn't the end of the world.
But these are all small-time problems. Blips on the radar of the larger problems surrounding weddings. Compared to the massive family drama, the religion discussions, the dealing-with-divorced/dead/spiteful parents that some people are doing, we just didn't have it. Plain and simple, we were lucky. Lucky that our families got along, that our parents like each other, that our sisters worked well together, that bridesmaid sniping was kept to a minimum, that all my bridesmaids knew better than to tell me if anything was wrong. Lucky that the morning of the wedding dawned with the perfect sunshine that my grandmother promised, lucky that my Dad was able to get sewing kits from the hotel and find my makeup in my sister's car. We were lucky that we had an army of people who came out and set up and cleaned up.
So while I can't tell you all that everything will be alright with respect to your weddings, I will tell you that yes, some of you have more than your fair share of problems. And it sucks, big time. All I can tell you is, it's been more than six months since we got married, and when I wrote this post, I really had to wrack my brain to think about all the things that went wrong. So yes, eventually this will all, good and bad, be behind you. Just breathe and get through it. Solve one crises at a time, then move quickly to the next. But put everything down the day before the wedding and have a good time with the people that love you, and just try to keep the rest as far away from you as you can.