My husband has never brought me flowers because we had a fight. I have never brought him flowers. The thing we do for each other when we have a fight (or simply, one of us acts like a jerk) is pretty simple. For starters, we say, "I'm sorry I was such a jerk last night." Nothing helps like apologizing. Flowers say, "I'm sorry you got upset." Actually apologizing says, "I was a jerk, I know it, and I feel badly about the way in which I acted or the things I said."
If I really want to show that I'm sorry, I try a little bit harder to alleviate the tension that caused the fight. If we have a fight about general cleanliness, the day after a fight, I'll often find myself picking up around the house. I look for organization solutions that are creative, inexpensive, and help stave off future arguments. I speak up before a situation gets out of control and leads to a fight, so we can talk through the issue before talking turns into shouting. Last Wednesday, we left for my sister-in-law's wedding, which was a stressful departure. Once we had calmed down, we talked through coming up with a strategy for leaving tomorrow for our trip to England so that we don't have a stressful departure. Will it work? Maybe, maybe not. Only time will tell.
How do you say/show you are sorry? Do you get your significant other flowers?