Our wedding was an investment in ourselves, in our relationship, in our baby family. There have been times in the past year when we've fought and wondered whether we were going to make it as a family. We wondered where the hell the light was at the end of the tunnel. When these things happened, I pictured the people we love the most in the world, sitting on benches, watching us swear vows to each other, and promising to support us.
our ceremony. I remember how the chocolate tasted and how sweet the wine was afterwards.
Our wedding was more than an investment in ourselves though. It was, as Becca said, an investment in joy. It was an investment in happy memories with the people I love the most in the world. When I think about my family, and the difficult things my cousins, my aunts and uncles, and my parents are facing, I think also about the way it felt to have my cousins lift us during the hora while the rest of our family and friends circled us.
Do I think that how much you spend on a wedding is at all important in determining the outcome of your marriage? No I do not. Do I think any of these things we got out of our wedding are because we spent more money on our wedding? No I do not. But the number one tip I see for cutting the budget of your wedding is to invite fewer people, and that is bullsh*t when it comes to the people you love. No savings is worth cutting important people out of your day, or hurting the feelings of the people you love. But there is more to an investment than money. There is time - there is investing a full day, or a full weekend, into your wedding. Some of us invest energy into crafts, into menu planning, into creating an awesome playlist. Some of us invest time into pre-marital counseling or creating a ceremony that reflects us. This is just to remind you that the work that you are doing now, the stress that you are feeling now, it's worth it, and it pays off.